Unconditional Living

You can live an unconditional life once you stop making conditions for yourself.

It has been challenge for me to break my old patterns.

As I have learned to do so, my life has been improved.

Some of the subtlest patterns are the ones which have been there the longest.

We don’t even pay attention to them because they feel like a part of us.

I was provoked to challenge a long-term pattern when I realized I was continually become upset.

I looked at what the pattern was saying, and then realized I had internalized it from so very long ago.

I made a conscious choice describing the feeling I would prefer, and then began substituting it for the long-term pattern.

This made me so happy that it became easier and easier to make the substitution and soon I found I was happier more of the time.

I can make my own conditions instead of accepting the ones around me or the ones from the past.

This is a very freeing attitude and has become a more consistent practice for me.

If you don’t like the path that your patterns are taking you on, I suggest you take a look at what they are saying.

Then revise what you would like to hear instead.

Even if it seems impossible, begin the process of substituting the language for what you want.

Your mind will start paying attention to this new pattern and you will find you can take another step and then another.

Your whole life can be rewritten and redirected in this way when you learn to be persistent and consistent.

Welcome to your new delightful life.

© 2018 Kathryn Hardage

www.inspiredpractices.blogspot.com 

What We Accept About Ourselves

I am grateful to discover what I accept about myself.

Everyone I know is grateful to discover what they accept about themselves.

Everyone I don’t even know, all over the planet, is grateful to discover what they accept about themselves.

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Sometimes, what we accept about ourselves is not positive nor productive.

The habit of accepting it perpetuates itself as long as we do not challenge it.

We are protecting the very thing we want to replace.

The way to replace it is to observe what the negative language is saying.

Then we can choose what we prefer to accept about ourselves and begin replacing it every time we notice that we are saying the old language.

This is a simple, but powerful way of addressing a long-term negative habit.

It has remained hidden and has been taking away the good life we could be living.

As soon as we begin our consistent replacement process, our life can take a new direction.

The more persistent we are, the sooner the old language fades and we can keep taking our next tiny steps until we arrive at our first goal.

The new habit we have built can be refined for any situation we wish to change.

We can lift ourselves out of it, as we continue to practice telling ourselves about the life we desire.

Some old habits are quicker to replace than others.

If we have accepted something negative for a very long time, it may take longer to change our language about it consistently.

But even long-term habits yield with the good feeling the new language brings us.

Take a look and your life and the language you use to describe yourself in it, and implement the changes you want to see.

© 2018 Kathryn Hardage

www.takethreedeepbreaths.blogspot.com 

Ruffling Feathers

We often hear that we are “ruffling someone’s feathers” when we organize change.

What we don’t realize is that we “ruffle our own feathers” when we try to change something in our own life.

We create resistance to our own desire for change.

Until we can listen to what our old behavior is telling us, we will not know how to change it.

Once we substitute language for the life we desire, we can begin to look for results.

The result will be a feeling that change is possible.

Once we realize that it depends on us, and not on outside factors, we can become an effective advocate for ourselves.

That old habit is not doing us any good.

It is keeping us in a place we wish to improve upon.

The new language we use to describe ourselves can lift us out of our old place.

The new habit of accepting an improved view, brings us into that view.

While the new language is becoming a habit, we may find ourselves slipping back and forth between our old results and some new results.

The happiness we are feeling because of the new results motivates us to continue replacing our old language with our new language.

This becomes so habitual that we start spending more time doing what we love in a place we have defined for ourselves.

Then the old “ruffled feathers” no longer concern us.

© 2018 Kathryn Hardage

www.lovedcherishedadored.blogspot.com 

Living With Gentleness and Certainty

It is possible to live gently on the earth.

We can become good stewards of the earth’s resources in many little ways within our own households.

We can encourage and join community efforts to be inclusive and to recycle.

The certainty of taking these small good steps will lead to larger ones.

As we all become more conscious of our duty and self-interest to be more caring for the earth, we will join together in more sound practices.

Although at this point, it seems impossible to predict how much good can be done, it is still important to start improving our habits.

On a grand scale, it will raise consciousness and allow us to live more harmoniously.

We will discover that we have much in common with the rest of the world.

We will seek out and find practical ways of expanding our good practices.

We can join with other communities and make sure that no one is neglected or left out.

One of our most precious resources is the presence of all the people around us.

Until we provide certain resources to include them, we will never know how much they have to offer and what they are willing to learn.

The gentleness of inclusion takes away harsh conditions of isolation and uplifts the attitude of everyone.

As we take our own steps, we can begin to look at other opportunities to be more inclusive.

We can face the awkwardness and discomfort and continue to take tiny steps in the directions which open up for us. 

Our gentle approach will help approach situations which have not been addressed so that permanent solutions can be found.

There are certainly ways to do this, and they can be discovered and implemented.

© 2018 Kathryn Hardage

www.pebblesofpeace.blogspot.com 

Active Care

Spiritual self-government activates the spiritual law of care.

By living according to the law of unselfishness and generosity, we will receive what we need.

We give from the flow of abundance into our lives.

Our first gift starts the flow.

As more ideas come to us and we carry them out, the flow continues.

Giving ourselves the care of organic food circulates health throughout  our bodies.

We are able to work strongly and alertly.

Giving ourselves fulfilling and meaningful work puts satisfaction into our lives.

Living with courtesy creates considerate relationships at home and in public settings.

Seeing the best in people, even if they are in reduced circumstances, uplifts our attitude toward them.

Beautifying the yard with one perennial plant at a time fills up the landscape permanently with flowers and even perennial vegetables.

This reduces water usage and stops adding to the pollution of lawn mowing.

Our attitude and our practices expand our self-care into our communities.

We are able to reach out from our foundation of practice and demonstrate our results.

Community wide care will steward local resources and utilize and develop the skills which can best serve the community.

A harmonious community results from protection from chemicals, a pure food and water source, and valuing the people who live there.

© 2018 Kathryn Hardage

www.pebblesofpeace.blogspot.com

Try Forgiveness

You can restore your balance through forgiveness.

Starting with yourself, look at the influences you were dealing with and forgive yourself.

As you take off the pressure from yourself reacting to those circumstances, you allow a little more light into you life.

With the light, send a message of love to yourself.

You can shift the balance of painful reaction when you start sending a difference message to yourself.

Every time you feel pain, restore your balance with forgiveness, and then send in a message of light.

On the beam of light, you can add patience.

On another beam of light, you can add understanding.

On a third beam of light, you can add acknowledgement.

On one of the beams of light, you can add more love.

Along with forgiveness, the most radical thing you can do is to love yourself.

Keep sending the messages you want on each beam of light you shine into your circumstances.

You will shift the balance in your life.

© 2018 Kathryn Hardage

www.inspiredpractices.blogspot.com 

Moving Out From Tunnel Vision

I found myself irritated at a conversation I heard while I was working on a project.

Increasingly, I also found myself reacting to the fluorescent lighting.

As I took steps to mitigate the lighting by putting on a hat I wear for protection from the sun, I found that I could no longer concentrate on my project.

I moved into a room with natural lighting and sat down to calm down.

A friend joined me to converse and to ease the situation.

Not until I got home and talked with my husband did I realize that I had been in the middle of a full-blown panic attack.

I realized that the irritating conversation I heard was a trigger for a feeling of extreme frustration from the past.

Since it was not directed at me, I had not caught it.

I am grateful to realize another example so that I can redirect myself.

I am grateful for the friend who helped me calm down with supportive conversation.

I will now be more aware when a combination of factors causes me to react with irritation and sensitivity.

I will act as quickly as I can to restore myself to my new standard of safety and harmony.

Fortunately, I am farther and farther away from the past causes of my symptoms.

 I have  acquired effective tools and techniques to deal with such situations.

I am around forgiving and understanding people, and I will ask for their patience once again.

© 2018 Kathryn Hardage

www.lovedcherishedadored.blogspot.com